Recently I’ve had the chance to get together with some local friends for movies and coffee and tasty food, and it’s been really nice! I do a lot of traveling for larger meets, as the bigger groups in my state are about an hour and half away from me. So it’s a nice change of pace to do some smaller local things!
Everything Else: Offbrand
I went to see How to Train Your Dragon 3 with a friend, and I wore kind of a casual chic coord for it! The cardi and tights are actually navy, a coord I don’t wear enough in lolita, really. I’d like to add more of it to my wardrobe!
And then we ate some tasty food! This katsudon was HUGE!!
JSK & Bag: BTSSB
Blouse & Flower Crown: Handmade
Everything Else: Offbrand
Then I hosted the tiniest meetup haha. It ended up only being 3 of us, but it was good company and tasty food and we went to see a Bolshoi performance of Sleeping Beauty! I had to break out She is Sleeping, of course. I’ve worn this dress a few times and still feel like I haven’t quite coordinated it exactly how I wanted it, but this is definitely getting closer! I’d also really like to do a very old school look with it some time.
The performance was beautiful, of course! It was one of those theater releases of live shows, and I’d never had a chance to go, so I was really happy to finally see one! The costumes were absolutely stunning. It was really cool to see the behind-the-scenes footage before the show and during intermission too! And it was nice to enjoy it in fancy recliner movie theater seats hahaha!
It’s been nice to wear lolita in more causal, chill situations, but I’m also really excited for a bigger twinning themed meetup next month. Do you prefer smaller gatherings or bigger events?
Earlier this month a local friend organized a Crafting and Cocktails meetup, and though I had just driven up to Raleigh for another meet, I couldn’t resist this theme! A casual afternoon of crafting and tasty drinks is pretty much my ideal.
Hair Accessories: Handmade
Socks: Sock Dreams
My outfit was a bit off the beaten path, but I’m so so pleased with it! I want to branch out my casual style more, and add quirkier things that may not be quite lolita, but feel more me!
We had a big range of tasty snacks and of course lovely cocktails! I had an Elderflower French 75, which was delicious!
We chatted, took photos and did a little crafting, though I think a lot of us did more talking than actual crafting haha! I started on some knitting, and other folks drew or beaded or sewed, and it was a great way to strike up conversation about creative pursuits
My lovely friend Em gifted me some stickers of her amazing angry lolita designs! I relate to these so much and love their old school styling! Now I just have to figure out where to put them…it’s so hard to decide where to put stickers!!! (Also she’s got a couple of these cuties up in her RedBubble store if you love them like I do ♥)
Afterwards some of us went out to get some sushi! Such pretty sashimi. It was a lovely end to a lovely day!
I’d definitely love to attend more casual meets like this, a smaller group meant more time to catch up with everyone and a more relaxed atmosphere ♥
The unicorn lived in a lilac wood and she lived all alone. She was very old, though she did not know it, and she was no longer the careless color of sea foam, but rather the color of snow falling on a moonlit night.
When I saw this prompt pop up on the Lolita Blog Carnival, I knew I had to put together something for it! Initially I thought about a rêveur from The Night Circus, but found my wardrobe kind of lacking. So I fell back on my old favorite, The Last Unicorn.
“And in the whiteness, of the whiteness, flowering in the tattered water… their eyes as dark and jeweled as the deep sea — and the shining of the horns, the seashell shining of the horns!”
A long time ago I made a post about Amalthea, but since Polyvore went down, a lot of that is lost. This time I managed with my own closet! I incorporated a few little details, like pearls and moons, and I think the floaty chiffon layers really add to a mythical unicorn look.
Is there a book coordinate you’ve longed to do? Something inspired by a heroine or a dashing prince maybe?
So in exchange for these lovely blog graphics, my lovely friend Em agreed to an art trade! In all honesty I’d never really done one before because I tend to see them between illustrators, and while I love to draw I’ve never felt up to snuff for that sort of thing. But of course, textiles are an art unto themselves right? So I offered some sewing in exchange!
Em has this precious headdress from AP, and requested a faux fur collar to match! Right up my alley, I love making little fur collars and I wear them quite a bit to fancy up an outfit or keep warm!
I assembled the materials, with the hopes to match some gingham ribbon to the cute check print on the headdress, and I think I was successful!
And the finished product! I’m so happy with how it came out. I have a much-used pattern, but getting the ribbons to sit right while sewing and dealing with fur is always an adventure haha!
These little guys are actually detachable! They’ve got little pinbacks on the back so that she can use them elsewhere, or have a simpler, more versatile collar if she wants!
I had so much fun with this project! It was an excellent excuse to break out my sewing machine after a little bit of a post-holidays sewing funk. And I can’t wait to see how Em coordinates it!
In the past decade or so lolita has wandered from something weird but fairly casual to something super over the top, almost exclusively reserved for meetups and events. A few girls in my local community were discussing more casual lolita lately, and it’s something near and dear to my heart, but I feel like it’s gone a bit by the wayside, even in my own wardrobe! So I thought I’d pull a few coordinates together and talk about just how to wrangle more casual styles.
I think something that’s not talked about too often is you actually have to have the stuff to make casual coords! It’s not necessarily a whole different wardrobe, but there are some components you might not have if you exclusively wear very detailed OTT pieces.
Shrugs, Cardigans, and Cutsews– I find that blouses, in general, don’t really lend themselves to casual looks. It’s totally possible, but it’s way easier to get a laid back feel with a less stiff piece of clothing!
Skirts– I feel like skirts get a bad rep in the community. They’re harder to coordinate, so a lot of folks don’t buy them? But I love a good skirt, and they tend to be a little less over the top and easier coordinate with casual styles.
Casual Headwear– You can totally wear larger headbows with casual looks, but smaller headbands, bows, clips, and berets are a lot easier to incorporate into the style. Plus, if you’re forgoing a wig these are easier to balance with natural hair.
This first one is I think what people think of when they think of casual lolita? The cutsew, knee socks, and flat shoes all kind of lend themselves to a casual look, while the jewelry adds just enough detail.
This is a bit more of an attempt to tone down what would otherwise be a kind of OTT dress. The front might look a little plain, but this JSK has a bustle back haha. A cute cardigan over top, some kitchy accessories, and simple legwear keep it casual.
And heeeeere’s where I stray a little off course. For those who’ve been following me for a long time, you know I don’t love a strict rule set, and casual lolita is definitely where that line starts to blur for me! I really like a soft cozy sweater with lolita? It goes in kind of a mori direction, and I find that charming and cozy. I kept everything else more or less strictly lolita to kind of adjust for the overly casual top.
Pardon me while I veer off the rails into what is maybe not even lolita anymore territory haha. This has a lot of the same principles as the last coord, with a little less effort to fully disguise the t-shirt haha. I think I’d feel a bit better about this if I had a detachable black peter pan collar, in all honesty. But in general, I would totally rock this look. It’s comfy and cute and spooky! (The shirt is from Lord of Masks, whom I love with all my witchy heart)
Hair & Makeup
This one can be a little tricky, depending on your comfort level, what your hair looks like, etc. Generally for casual the idea is less is more.
If you’re comfortable wearing your own hair, then go for it! If not, maybe choose a simple, short, or more natural wig! I’ve gotten a lot of wear out of curly bob styles for casual looks, but you can definitely make a longer wig work.
Also consider cute hair styles! I think braids, pigtails, and buns are totally fine for wearing with casual. It adds a little interest, and keeps your hair out of your way, which is super practical!
Makeup-wise, it’s again kind of a personal preference. To me, pretty light makeup and natural looks are comfortable and fine! But I wouldn’t say heavier makeup doesn’t have a place in casual lolita. A more fun and colorful look or something a bit heavier and gothy if you swing that direction, would be super cute! The key is that it’s comfortable for you!
This post ended up super long haha! I hope it was helpful, I know making such a generally unusual and over the top style casual can be a bit hard to wrap your brain around. In making coordinates I’m much more excited to wear more casual lolita around town, and I hope you are too!
I feel like the last few years for me as a lolita has been kind of a mixed bag, and I’ve been not as motivated in the fashion as I’d like to be. So while I’m not usually one for resolutions, I wanted to try a make more of a lolita to-do list for the upcoming year!
I know it might not seem like too much, but I wanted to keep things fairly easy to do, but still more motivating than this year!
10 Meetups/Events: I went to maybe….6-7 events this year? But I’d like to make more of an effort this year! My comm has put on so many nice meetups lately ♥ and I’m already RSVPed for a cool photoshoot meetup in January!
Sew More: This one’s pretty self-explanatory, I’ve done some lolita sewing in the latter half of the year, but I’d like to do some more practical sewing, which leads us to the next item…
Focus on Wardrobe Building: I tend to sew or buy stuff that I find fun or interesting, rather than what I actually need. I want to kind of assess my wardrobe early in the year and see what gaps need filling!
Wear More Casual Lolita: I used to wear casual lolita all the time and a lot of people I think found me back when I first started this blog because of that, so I’d like to do more casual dressing up, and wearing lolita not just for meetups!
Post at Least Twice a Month: This may not seem like a huge amount, but I honestly wanted to keep the bar kind of low, so that on busy months I won’t feel quite so pressured.
I hope this was interesting! Do you guys have any resolutions or plans for the new year in lolita?
I mentioned a little while back that I went to a Harry Potter themed meetup, and it was so much fun!! We had some lovely food, did a themed trivia quiz (I can never remember all 5 of Dumbledore’s names, can you?), and everyone’s outfits were themed and amazing! Lots of folks came in their house colors and looked fabulous, but yet again I wandered off the beaten path on theme!
JSK & Bag: BTSSB
Bolero, Sash, & Hat: Handmade
Tights: Forever 21
Wig: Epic Cosplay
Giant Lollipop: Hobby Lobby
I went for a Honeydukes shop witch coordinate! I love the aesthetics of the movie version of the store, all pink and mint. It was fun to pull in details from those sets too!
I made my hat from scratch, decorating it with mini paper forms of Honeydukes sweets and tiny candies from the Hobby Lobby mini tree section haha! I even altered the colors on the candy boxes to match my color scheme.
I also made myself a Honeydukes rosette! The logo was ironed on to felt (didn’t know that was feasible until I did this project!) and I made a sparkly sash to match!
I think the project I was most pleased with for this was my bolero though! It was totally handmade, super comfy, and I’m really looking forward to getting more outfits out of it in the future! I always need more shrugs and things, I should really make some more often!
This was really such a fun meetup all together. It was nice seeing friends and chatting about Harry Potter! The series was such a huge part of my childhood, and it was fun to relive that a little bit at this meetup.
When I came back to blogging, I knew I would have to fix up the blog itself. I’ve had the same header for a literal age, and I don’t even own have the dresses featured in it anymore! So I asked my lovely friend and artist Em if she would do a bit of an art trade with me, and she agreed!
Her half of the trade is my super adorable header and this sweet portrait icon, and I’ll be sewing a cute furry collar for her winter wardrobe! I’m over the moon to have such cute art on my blog, I just love Em’s lolita illustrations. You can check out more of her art at her portfolio! I’ll be starting work on her collar soon, and I’ll share some photos when I finish!
It’s a bit after Halloween now, but I thought I’d share my coordinate from a few weeks ago anyway! My community had a super lush vampire themed meet, complete with gothic decor, lots of tasty food, and so many lovely coordinates! I thought I’d take the theme to a bit of the opposite direction and make a vampire hunter outfit!
Jacket, Skirt, Accessories: Handmade
Necklace: Moss Marchen
Wig: Arda Wigs
I had a lot of inspirations for this one, mainly Castlevania character designs, military lolita, and Vampire Hunter D! I also made a lot of accessories, for this, including a bible purse, holy water, and carving a stake!
The meet was so fun, and I was really pleased with my look overall, especially given that so much of it was handmade! I adore themed meetups and I’m headed to a Harry Potter one this weekend, so look forward to photos from that!
Long time no see! Someone asked me about my blog the other day and it really got me thinking. I don’t know if blogging really has that much of a place in lolita anymore, but I also feel like I have things to say again. Lolita has had such a weird, profound, and lasting impact on my life for whatever reason, and every time I stray away a little bit, I always come back to it.
I’m not a lifestyle lolita anymore. I’m not really even a sometimes lolita, I’m more of an events and fancy occasions and sometimes-when-I-feel-guilty-about-my-closet-full-of-ruffles lolita. But I still pull my dressses out when I’m feeling really blue, or if the situation calls for it. I still run panels at local cons. I still make, and thrift, and buy second-hand. I still wear more casually and nerdy than some lolitas might think I should.
My community is actually pretty dang active! Thanks to a some very well put-together girls we regularly have some beautiful meetups with things like door prizes and themes! Honestly, I never thought I’d go to a fancy event like that, which seems silly now. But I appreciate those sorts of efforts so much, and seeing how much the community has grown is really touching to me.
I’ve got some stories to tell, and coordinates to share, and I’m sure some rants left up my sleeve. Oh, and I’ll track down some really good WTFs of the Week too, those were always some of my favorites! So uh…welcome back I guess. I’m happy to be here!